Y! Personality & Love Profile
Your Personality Type:
The Individualist
Finding your own path- As an Individualist, you stand out as your own person—imaginative, curious, shrewd, introspective, and filled with surprises.
- You're a free spirit. You've chosen your own path in life and don't do things simply to please other people. You're creative, intelligent, and opinionated. This isn't always a popular combination! Some misinterpret your insight and independence; they may see you as stubborn and a little snobbish.
- It's true you're a natural skeptic and critic. You're often more in tune with what's wrong in a situation than what's right. You've probably gravitated toward jobs and hobbies where you can investigate, analyze, and solve problems. The challenge is being able to turn off that "critical eye." Skepticism and doubt are great tools at work, but they can be destructive in your personal life.
- Fortunately, your quirky take on life can be very attractive. You often say and do the unexpected, which makes you fun and exciting to be around. You're very selective about who you share your life with. The lucky few find a very open and compassionate friend, who gives without condition. Lovers discover a very sensual person who is comfortable with their body.
- Individualists have a knack for innovation. Like pioneers, you have the potential to chart a new course and break new ground in your career and community. Not everyone will appreciate it, but you're a true original.Â
What Sets You Apart?
- You're blessed with a great capacity to feel joy, happiness, love, and excitement. Laughter is always a part of your life.Â
- You're a visionary thinker who can imagine the future and plot out a strategy for getting there.Â
- You're overly modest at times and tend to sell yourself short.Â
- You're a very stable and secure person.Â
Your Love Style:
Sensible
You're looking to fall in love with a lifetime companion—someone who'll share the good times and the bad.- You take love and commitment very seriously. To you, love is a partnership. It's an extreme form of friendship. Dating gives you a chance to learn what you like and don't like and who you would get along with best. However, once you know who you're looking for, it's a waste of time to pursue a relationship and risk falling in love with someone you know is incompatible.
- Yours is the most practical and reasonable of the love styles. You don't expect love at first sight. Liking someone is a good start, and as comfort and closeness grow, love can emerge. Of course, Sensible lovers have to be prepared for the possibility that it may not work out this way. When we "fall in" love, we "fall away" from the routines and rules that define our day-to-day lives. It's this extraordinary emotion that motivates us to re-arrange our lives and priorities to incorporate someone else. Paradoxically, it's the irrational part of love that helps us deal with all the pragmatic and logistical challenges of committing to someone.
- Even after a passionate stretch, chances are your approach to love will return to a more Sensible style. Most lovers, regardless of how they start, evolve more into companions over time anyway. For now, your "style" of loving has these common features:
- You want to share a very close bond with your partner. The past is the past, but you should be open and honest about your life now. If you love her, you'll want to know about her hopes and dreams and to do whatever you can to make them come true.
- You're most likely to fall in love with a woman who is independent by nature. She won't expect to merge her life with yours. Keeping separate friends, for example, will just give you more to talk about when you're together.
- Like the song says, "If you want to know if she loves you so, it's in her kiss." You want passionate kisses and won't settle for anything less. The two of you will probably be instantly attracted to each other. Sexual chemistry isn't everything, but it's a great way to connect body and soul with your partner.
- Both partners have to decide when they're ready to make a commitment and at what pace. Rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. The two of you have to find the type and level of commitment that makes sense given your feelings and how long you've been together.Â
Individualists in Love
Your Individualist personality and Sensible love style both reflect a very pragmatic approach to life. You make all decisions, including romantic ones, by investigating and analyzing the facts. You're not going to waste a woman's time or lead her on if you're not compatible. Still, being an Individualist and a little shy doesn't mean that you want to be alone. You simply need a woman who will appreciate you. Finding her can be a chore. Casual dating and mindless chitchat aren't for you. Just remember to reveal yourself gradually to your dates. Most women aren't used to your wit or straightforward manner.
Good and Bad Fits
- It's important to be compatible not only in how much you love each other, but also the way the two of you love:
- A man who values Sensible love, for example, will be most happy with women who share the same approach or who have a Destined love style.Â
- However, you'd probably be frustrated trying to connect with women who seek Spontaneous or Passionate love, because they're seeking a more casual relationship.Â
Your Biggest Challenge Is:
How can you keep your critical nature from consuming your life?
- Individualists are always watching out for new problems that could come up. You're a natural problem solver. So you're certainly prepared to handle any obstacle.
- Unfortunately, staying constantly on guard can heighten your suspicion of other people and lead you to assume the worst. Over time, this hyper-vigilance can make you quick to get angry and blame other people before you know all the facts.
- This same critical nature can also easily turn its focus on you. You can be excessively hard on yourself and take responsibility for problems that are out of your control. Your critical nature is a gift, but like all talents it needs to be guided and properly directed in order to be useful.
- Individualists are not into fads or pop-psychology, but you're still a believer in ongoing self-improvement. Some areas of your life that you may want to focus on include:
- You can be an approval junkie. You want others to recognize and appreciate your accomplishments and the sacrifices you make for them. Unfortunately, most people either ignore or take for granted what you give. It sounds cliché, but the only one who can satisfy your need for approval is you. Try taking time each day to feel pride in what you've done. Appreciate yourself even when others don't or can't.Â
- It's easy for you to escape into your own inner world. At times it can be easier to ignore real world problems and slip into your daydreams. You may find balance by using your fantasy life to imagine ways around your real world obstacles. Perhaps your mind is showing you a path out of your troubles if you can read the symbols.Â
- You need to be more assertive. Sometimes your needs have to come first. In a world with increasingly pushy people, sometimes you have to turn up the volume to get their attention. Practice stating what you need simply. You don't have to defend or explain every request.Â
Romantic Stumbling Blocks
Romance presents its own set of challenges. As you search to find the right partner, here are a few to watch out for:
- Your trusting and generous nature can make you vulnerable to being taken advantage of.Â
- You're great about being flexible and going with the flow, but occasionally your partner may want to follow and have you lead.Â
- Don't be afraid to ask for what you specifically need from your partner. Be cautious about assuming she can read your mind.Â
- You need time by yourself every day to "recharge," especially after lots of social contact. Let your partner know why you need this time and that it's so you can be in a better mood to enjoy her company afterwards.Â
Finding a Compatible Partner
Finding a compatible partner is one of the biggest challenges in life. You need a woman who is similar enough to understand you, but different enough to keep things interesting.
- Individualists like you are usually most comfortable with women who are Observers.
- She strives for inner peace in a non-peaceful world. Her quiet, cautious, down-to-earth nature sets her apart. Being different and somewhat of an "outsider," she has a chance to observe people and situations and be selective in what she does and says. Since she's shy and modest, it takes a while to get to know her.
- Find matches who have a Personality Type that fits with yours.
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