PumpkinSeed
Alas, we've found our solace: The Internet, where we discover that we're not alone at being alone, and that yes, we're quite unique....but not as unique as we thought we were.
God has graciously sprinkled us about the Earth to provide all those unique things we do, think and feel to keep the rest of mankind balanced.
I know that's a bold and possibly arrogant thing to say....but it speaks to God's wisdom, and OUR INHERENT RESPONSIBILITY (should you not reject the call) to live life to the fullest, and live it out well.
All those thoughts and feelings you wrestle with each day...those aches that bring you down and drive you insane, as you weigh out a myriad of potential possibilities of this that and the other, and wonder which is the BEST/Most appropriate choice or action to take....there's a reason you think this way, and it's not just for you.
My words of advice as your brother INFP'er: yes - get to know yourself - don't dare get stuck in a lifestyle where you have no personal (solo) time, as YOU NEED THAT. On the other hand, keep yourself open:
1. Learn from people with different views - you may be the "perceptive" one, but sometimes...often we lack the judgment of what to do with those perceptions. Yes, make decisions for yourself in the end, but realize others may be better and quicker at making judgments. Take their quick ideas, and TWEAK THEM with your insights and make some AMAZING decisions with your life. How easy it is for us to get stuck in a loop of indecisive thought!
2. SHARE! Many of us deal with fears of sharing, but there is a world SCARCE of our insights that can really benefit from knowing what you know! Stop standing on the outside while you see others hurting themselves out of ignorance. You see what's wrong, and what could be better - you see what's working and needs to grow. Point it out, and encourage some positive changes in your world.
3. "Let others in"?? Perhaps. More so, LET YOURSELF OUT! Discover those connections with others you never thought was possible! FEEL LOVED for once in your life! It's not about waiting for meeting the "right" person - it's about putting out there who you really are, and gosh, someone will take notice, and show their appreciation for you - the TRUE you that you keep hidden inside!
4. CREATE! Let it out! It's running through you - you see and hear things different than others - turn it into art, poetry, music, dance, etc!! Even if you get stuck with a mundane job, life will be worthwhile when you set time aside into the creative arts. Blog away!
5. Journal. I have one SPECIAL journal, I call it my "Intuition Journal". You know all those thoughts you keep daydreaming about, that you don't want to let go of, and it keeps you very unproductive or disconnected from reality - put it down to paper or your word processor. Keep it under lock and key (or password encryption) so you'll feel free to type ANY thought without fear of judgment from any other human. You'll find this to be a very rewarding exercise as it makes the daydreams & running thoughts TANGIBLE. Now instead of it being something that crippled you from living your life, it can EMPOWER your life! All of a sudden, you have a RELEASE. You won't worry about forgetting that idea you were working on. You'll notice who and what triggers your emotions, and be able to see through the fog at a later date. Your mind will be more free to experience the here and now! You'll finally be able to focus you A.D.D. head, and be present with those around you.
I enjoy having my Intuition Journal as a computer file on my PDA, where I often found myself copying and pasting to e-mails and blogs - sharing my buried emotions and thoughts, for the first time. I may not have been able to say, "I love you"....but I can show you what you mean to me.
6. Where would I be without my friends? I don't have any INFP friends, that I know of....BUT HOW SPECIAL it is to have an ENFP friend!! =) Don't just be the ear - find a friend you feel comfortable TOTALLY opening up to, and that will grant you much sanity!
7. GET A JOB...yes, perhaps even interacting with fellow humans! Yes, I did grow and learn about myself a lot during a year I didn't work.....I have no regrets for that year, but now I'm working 52 hours every week to pay off the debts I racked up then. I have a philosophy where I believe I should be a well-rounded individual, with many kinds of experiences. I've gotten jobs that I knew DIDN'T fit my personality (child-care worker, door-to-door salesman, telemarketer, etc) BUT I'm glad I've had these jobs as they made me a balanced person and a better worker. BUT, do your best to SETTLE into a job that FITS YOU (thus the book, 
). For an INFP, that's a job that provides structure to keep us from wandering or obsessing, yet freedom to do things CREATIVELY, our own way....lest you hate every hour you're clocked in...one third of your adult life!
8. Get Blown away! Let yourself fall in love, get heart broken, take risks, get scared, and share that big heart hidden inside of you with the cold scarey world around you. Go to an INTENSIVE seminar like 
and be challenged to live out those HUGE dreams! And never forget the Dream Giver, the one who made you you. He has a plan for your life. Don't waste it being selfish and upset that nobody understands you.
Love yourself. You were created by a loving Father who wants the best for you. You are a gift to those around you. Don't let that get to your head, but let it get to your heart.
*hugs*
~Andrew
(Originally written for fellow INFP'ers at Bloginality)
Currently Listening to: Station Wagon - Songs for Parents by Sara Groves
Currently Reading: other INFP's on bloginality
Currently Watching: The Cuteness Project!
Currently Feeling: accomplished
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